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One day at a time. Spring is here.

3/30/2021

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Once again I’ve stopped watching the news. For the past four days I’ve glanced at the headlines and left it at that. No TV news, for that is “the killer”—killer in helping me stay peaceful and work for peace in the world. What’s that song? “Let there be peace on early and let it begin with me.” It just doesn’t begin with me when my my mind, body, spirit gets overloaded with news/politics. 
    I notice that every so often I write about this. After a time of allowing the TV  to take over some of my silence, solitude, and simplicity, I let you know what I have been doing and that I am amending my ways. As I return to my bad habit, however, I never admit it. Hmm, that’s the way addicts act. We only report when we are healing, when we have consciously entered some kind of rehab, not when we’re indulging.  
     If I slip back into news watching, I’d like to promise that I will tell you. But there’s a good chance I’ll forget. Addicts are like that. 
        One day at a time. Spring is here.

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We want somebody to be there.

3/24/2021

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 Most of all, we don’t want to be alone. We may long for some peace and quiet, assaulted as we are by the needs of other people all day. But we don’t want there to be no one for whom we matter. We want somebody to be there. 
    I need to speak out loud these wise, truthful words of Barbara Cawthorne Crafton, lest I give the impression that we who love silence, solitude, and simplicity want to live completely alone with it . We don’t! We are fully aware that we relish time by ourselves because we have (in no particular order) friends, family, physical resources, interests, and faith that make for a full life. Silence, solitude and simplicity don’t fill a void; rather they provide balance and support our life in community. ​

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Sitting with the sadness

3/18/2021

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The father of a student I taught in first grade years ago, died last weekend while hiking in New Hampshire. I don’t have many details, and maybe I don’t need any. Right now it is enough to sit in the silence, solitude, and simplicity that I have created for myself over the years. From this spot I can send peace to my now grown student, his family and his siblings. I can listen to what I might write to him. 
    My usual way is to move quickly to the future, but these past twelve or so years, since I began spending time at the cottage by the sea, have help me stay in the moment rather than rush away from unpleasant things. And so I sit with this sadness. For sure the family can’t rush away; so why should I? Instead, I sit with them.

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Computer rules for silence, solitude, and simplicity

3/15/2021

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Silence, solitude, and simplicity are difficult to experience with a computer sitting on my lap. Poof, an open screen can keep me busy all day.  Memories of managing my kids TV time comes to mind.
     I have a few rules, however, to assure my screen time doesn’t control me. For years the first two hours of my day have been sacred times for me—prayer, meditation, reading. The computer is off—no email, no news. I don’t know what has happened in the world until past 7 AM (I get up at 5:15). Throughout the day, when I am not using it, I close my computer and let it lie there in deep sleep. Usually I respond once a day to someone; I don’t converse back and forth.      
     For the most part I don’t bring my computer downstairs where I read and watch TV. Out of sight, out of mind, my mother used to say. One more thing. I continue to do my best to stay away text messaging.

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A book or two on the table

3/11/2021

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We received our second Moderna vaccine on Tuesday, slept eleven hours Wednesday night and are back to our usual form today. The computer hack has been taken care of. That’s two things completed. Parents, however, are still deciding whether to send their children back to school now that the hybrid possibility is off the table.  
     Life is like that. Some things get taken care of and we move on. Others remain sloshing around. Either we don’t know what to do or the situation outside our control remains in flux. 
    For many of us, in spite of unrest and uncertainly, slosh and flux, we have a book or two ready on the table .

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Back to school?

3/9/2021

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A Face Book friend has asked for opinions about kids returning to in person school. Hers have been home all year, while others have been hybrid Now that schools are officially opening up, what should she do? Here’s my posted response. 



If I were your kid’s teacher I would want her/him physically to cross our classroom threshold and join our learning community. I would want that because I believe that having kids present in person is best for for their social, emotional, and intellectual well being, for the classroom community, and for the society as a whole. Growing up in a positive, loving learning environment with our peers helps us be positive, loving participants in the world.

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You are not alone with your computer problems

3/6/2021

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One would think that failed internet service would give us the silence, solitude and simplicity that we long for, but we all know that isn’t true. My husband’s computer was hacked…I won’t go into the details. Do NOT use your computer until computers are cleaned. 
     We are about ready to get it all sorted out, so when I post this, all will be well. Right now I working on a mantra by Julian of Norwich--all shall be well and all manner of things shall be well. In fact, I’ve been living with that one for a few days. 
    So where are the gratitudes? For all the people who have helped us, all so kind: Andrew at the Apple Store; Mike who made a  house visit from Comcast; the Best Buy tech people. Kudos to all them and others.They helped us know that we are not alone.

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Just keep walking!

3/4/2021

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I’ve declared that my knee is better, at least well enough for me to get back into my daily walking routine. How easy it is, with snow on the walkways and pain in the knee, to give up a daily walk. But I’m back.  I’ve been doing my PT exercises as warm ups before setting out for my walk—1/8 of a mile to Wadsworth Cemetery, wander about there, and then home. 
    My final PT session is coming up; my wonderful therapist will give me a set of maintenance exercises; my calendar will be free of that appointment. For those who care, I probably have a degenerative torn meniscus—and some arthritis. It’s an age thing, but I'm telling myself, "Just keep walking!"

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No stress vaccine

3/2/2021

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How to maintain a life of silence, solitude, and simplicity when we keep hearing, “It’s all about the vaccine, Stupid!” I’m feeling pretty successful in doing just that in spite of the truth that my husband and I both want our second vaccine. 
    Yes, we are waiting for our second Moderna vaccine. It is schedule, but the state hasn’t given CareWell,  our provider, the dosages the need.  Please, don’t ask me any questions! To get involved in the why’s, ifs, ands and buts of it all will only allow me to be stressed about it, and when I am stressed I end up playing ‘the blame game.’ I hate that game! It is game I never win! 
    Instead, the waiting game will bring us the prize we want—our second vaccine. The only rule we must follow is to call CareWell and then show up at the time and day we are rescheduled. It will happen soon. We won’t be playing this game forever. Meanwhile it is a crisp, sunny March day. A day of silence, solitude, and simplicity that offers hope and new beginnings. ​

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